Dating In The City: Just Be.

Entertainment — By Lena on October 26, 2011 12:30 pm

In certain circles in my past I have been known to be an about town kind of gal. I was the one people called when they wanted to learn about anything cool – whether that was tech based or music places to dine. This also included the one they wanted to meet up with in the wee hours of the evening.

Recently, I have been a little more conservative in my evenings out. I have noticed that this has also spilled over to my music / and technology fixes as well. I now (like my mom and dad before me) look toward my younger cousins to figure out what the new “in thing” is, and I am following at least four 17 y/o on my Tumblr.

My weekends are sudedenly overflowing with text archives like: “where ru?” “am I seeing you 2nite?” “where ru?”

One also has to reflect how the influence of friends and family can ultimately affect the trajectory of any relationship.

Friends, what are they good for? I think friends like anyone we choose to have in our lives reflecte appealing character traits in ourselves. When dating someone new, it’s only natural that you want the opinions of these people to be positive.

In support the above notion I must mention here how critical to NYC survival ones girlfriends truly are. I think many people are under the notion that the legendary Sex n the City series was about fashion or dating or NYC. When in truth it was about girlfriends.

Mentioned in a previous post – I see my girls as superwomen able to leap tall buildings in a single bound. As I have hand picked them to pound the streets of Manhattan with, I hold their word to be the highest importance. Of course they had to meet “PB”.

There seems to be a general consensus in regards to my current relationship. Although they each said it in a different manner, they each seem to fail to see what I find so intriguing about PB. One confident continues to remind me not to settle.

Ive never been one to say that I am doing this by that time.. . I never planned on moving to New York for instance, and although people always ask me when I am coming back to California, I never seem to have an answer.

I guess its hard for me to commit myself to saying I plan on being in this relationship for this targeted amount of time. In essence – the timing here seems perfect. I am honestly tired of the club / culture scene. I have been on it since I was 17. Honestly just being in a relationship, capturing the world through a new perspective, seems like an exciting new theme.

I wouldn’t call this new state of mind settling. I am still actively dating people, PB is just the one who is taking up the majority of my free time at the moment. For now Id like to learn to resist the urge to bolt at the first sign of uncouth or uncool.

Is it wrong to want to just sit still for a moment?

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